Fear can be a true reaction to a dangerous person or situation, but more often than not, fear is an illusion in your mind.
What fear-based messages have you internalized? Most likely, “don’t fail” or “don’t make a mistake” are messages you’ve received many times. In conjunction, you may have an inner voice of judgment that is forever putting you down and telling you to stay there.
Frankly, failing and making mistakes are how we humans learn. Some of the most successful business people failed before making their billions. It took Thomas Edison over 10,000 failures before inventing the light bulb. When asked about that, he stated, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Fear is energetically based in your root (first) chakra and is linked to safety, security and belonging. Fear of failure often feels like it will negatively impact those needs, but actually the opposite is true. When reframed, failure is an opportunity for learning, and learning something new will increase your chances for success.
Try approaching your failure with curiosity rather than judgment. Energetically, you will open up new pathways that will serve you better. Curiosity allows your energy, and that of you and your business, to flow instead of shutting down in certain areas … or altogether.The Zen Buddhist have a philosophy called Beginners Mind, which states, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” Before you felt judged for making mistakes, you made them freely as a way of learning about yourself, others and the world. Learning from mistakes and failures is a way of using your beginner’s mind to come up with new solutions to daunting issues.
When you feel you have made a mistake or failed, take a few minutes to just breathe. Breathing will help soothe your fearful mind and decrease your stress so that negative energy doesn’t get lodged in your first chakra permanently.
Next, use your curiosity to ask questions that create clarity and be ready to uncover your brilliance. Questions for curiosity have no expectations, assumptions or illusions. Here is a list of possible non-judgmental questions adapted from Creativity in Business, a book by Michael Ray and Rochelle Myers.
- What is it I don’t understand yet?
- What is it that I’m really feeling?
- What is it that I’m not seeing?
- At this moment what is my aim?
- If the truth be known, what’s really going on?
- What is the voice of judgment saying?
- What pain am I avoiding?
- Who/What is my teacher?
- What truth did I find?
- What did I learn?
Creating curiosity in the face of failure will not only help to free up any blocked energy in your first chakra, but open the energy in your throat (fifth) chakra, so you communicate with yourself and others more authentically.
Explore! Be thoughtful! Be gentle with yourself! Keep at it! Remember, you are here on earth to grow as a soul.
With gratitude, Nanette
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