Use the Throat Chakra to Speak and Listen and Activate Your Confidence
With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world. Dalai Lama
Confidence killer! There is nothing like the fear of being judged for what you say, or listening to negative talk about you to kill your confidence.
Speaking and listening are correlated with the fifth (throat) charka. Energetically, when we express ourselves authentically, and communicate (speaking and listening) effectively our throat chakra is open.
I recently had an opportunity to open my throat chakra by inviting judgment, and ask a very uncomfortable question. I was extremely nervous!
I had to write speech for my Speaker Sisterhood Club called “Awaken Your Voice.” The speech prompt included an exercise to help me activate my confidence by asking 20 to 30 friends, relatives, professional colleagues, and others to describe me in 3 words.
I felt weird asking! I was embarrassed at some level. But, why? Why did it seem like such a daunting task? Was I scared to hear what they had to say? Was I fearful that they would think I was a bit narcissistic? Was it because I don’t like asking for help (well that one is definitely true).
Just the thought of asking made me incredibly uncomfortable – the complete opposite of confident! Not to mention, my authentic voice wanted to shrivel up and croak. In that moment, my throat chakra felt very constricted…literally choked.
I actually enjoy speaking in front of small groups of people. And over many years, I’ve gotten fairly comfortable with it. I often speak professionally to market myself, and when teaching my classes. Overall, I am pretty confident about using my authentic voice when speaking and teaching.
But, using my voice to ask to be judged, and then listening to what others thought of me…well that felt RISKY! My small ego self completely took over at that point. “People might think I don’t know myself – after all I am a life and business coach, aren’t I supposed to know who I am?” “This is the stupidest speech ever – I’m not doing it!” “Where am I going to find all these people? They aren’t going to want to play my little game.” “Who do I think I am anyway – I’m not that important!”
I knew what was happening. I had stirred the inner hornets nest of insecurity. The wounded little girl inside me was throwing a bit of a tantrum. Despite all my personal work, she still feels very inadequate at times. She was fearful of being judged for asking for authentic feedback, and afraid of what she might hear.
So, I had to do some inner communication before I could do the outer communication. I had choices, I could ignore her and pretend I didn’t hear her, tell her to shut the !*@# up, or I could work from the compassionate energy of my heart chakra and really listen to her. I decided to do the latter. “There, there,” I told her. “I know it’s scary, but this will be an adventure, something we’ve never done before.” “I promise, it will be alright.”
By listening deeply with compassion to my inner child, and not shutting her down, I opened the constriction in my throat chakra a bit, and despite my fears, took action. I put my request on Facebook, and held my breath.
The feedback I received was beyond my imagination. It was the BEST DAY EVER!! Over 30 people responded. Initially, I resisted the positive words, but ultimately I opened myself up energetically to receiving people’s authentic impressions of me. I was humbled, and at the same time, my confidence went through the roof!
My top 5 qualities according to friends, family, colleagues and others are:
I feel blessed to know so many amazing people who were willing to speak up and take this journey with me.
How many times have you shut down the voice of your inner child, or ignored her cries for attention? How do you interfere with expressing yourself authentically? When do you avoid truly hearing others? When you play it safe, how does it sabotage your confidence?
Are you ready to activate your confidence and open up your throat chakra? Yes? Then, I challenge you!
Ask your friends, family, colleagues and others for 3 words that describe you. I would love to hear what you learn about yourself! Leave a comment below with your TOP 3 HITS. I can’t wait to hear about all your wonderful qualities!
If you would like to hear the speech I gave at my Speaker Sisterhood club click on the purple button below.
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